Can men and women be just friends? Just a question. Some can say that it is possible. In fact, I know it is. However, I can be hypocritical as well. I told someone close to me that generally speaking, men want sex not really friendship. Sure, you can befriend someone but how long does it take for a person to catch feelings in the process? This person I speak of, found herself spending a lot of time with this guy. The guy buys her kids things, things for her apartment, yada yada yada. Doesn't sound like a friend to me.Well sure enough dude expresses that he has caught feelings. It was funny because before she told me this, she asked if I was hoping that she would not ever meet anyone. She confessed that dude really did like her, she claims she told him that it was not like that with her and do not try to do that again, but you know how that goes. It will come up again. I have female friends who I admit I was at one time trying to sleep with. Hey, I was shallow like that. Yet, I have friends who have been in my life for over twenty plus years. One thing is for certain in those cases, you gotta put boundaries around the friendship and dont take yourself or them there because sex can and will spoil it. Its weird like that, something Scully and Mulder. You know that attraction is there but this 900 pound elephant in the room wont make any noise. Yet, you know its there. It can be confusing but healthy at the same time. Friends give you a support system that lovers perse can't. Yet it is human nature to go there just because. I have nothing against friendships with the opposite sex, I dont trust sometimes the people in them. Hey like I said its confusing, or maybe its just me.
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